tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5877872196122597956.post3003418387288035715..comments2024-02-14T14:47:58.061-08:00Comments on Word Salad: Getting DressedColeslawhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06813319585807128092noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5877872196122597956.post-9760893764237021772013-03-18T19:52:55.853-07:002013-03-18T19:52:55.853-07:00Trying again:
Thanks, lsn. What makes me angry is ...Trying again:<br />Thanks, lsn. What makes me angry is that if I hadn't been born in my exact niche in time, I probably would have had a much harder time getting out of that situation. I am a member of the baby boom generation, so due to excellent public schools I was able to get scholarships and grants to attend college and graduate school and get a degree in a field in which I could support myself and a child. I was a second wave feminist and, at the time, had just finished a term as the state president of a feminist organization and missed election to the national board by a handful of votes*, so I had an excellent support system (which my ex resented). The state I live in allowed battered women to evict the batterer from the family home without a formal legal separation, which allowed me time to think about what I wanted to do. That legislation had been passed just the previous summer.<br /><br />Now college educations are more expensive and put people in more debt, making it harder for women to obtain financial power; complementarian churches, which are reluctant to endorse separation, let alone divorce, for abused spouses, have gained in size and power; and many women are reluctant to consider themselves feminists. Look at the struggle over getting the Violence Against Women Act reauthorized. I know there have been advances (there was no VAWA in my day, just having gotten a National Domestic Abuse Hotline was a big deal), but there have been setbacks, too.<br /><br />*Yeah, it really can happen to anyone.Coleslawhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06813319585807128092noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5877872196122597956.post-5446449427459995642013-03-18T05:41:34.367-07:002013-03-18T05:41:34.367-07:00I have been trying for a while to formulate a resp...I have been trying for a while to formulate a response to this. It boils down to thank you for writing this, and I am so sad and angry that this happened to you. Glad that you were able to leave, glad that you are in the place you are now, but still so angry that it happened at all.<br /><br />It also made me think about the ways in which people hide what is happening to them, and the ways in which socioeconomic status aids in that hiding. <br /><br />And again, I am glad you are where you are now.lsnnoreply@blogger.com