tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5877872196122597956.post784340188254740277..comments2024-02-14T14:47:58.061-08:00Comments on Word Salad: The Wrong PersonColeslawhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06813319585807128092noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5877872196122597956.post-4987809463864206612012-01-16T16:39:21.404-08:002012-01-16T16:39:21.404-08:00Thanks for this! There's a certain mindset tha...Thanks for this! There's a certain mindset that seems to believe that once you've made the decision to marry someone, <i>that decision cannot ever turn out to be wrong</i>. I mean, that's the logical end of that train of thought, right? Do they really think you can't make a mistake in who you marry? Does putting a ring on your finger mean you automatically picked the right person? <br /><br />I've never been married, but I've been in romantic relationships that just Weren't Right for me. In the case I'm thinking of just now, it wasn't necessarily abusive (though I have friends who think it was borderline, so IDK) but we fought all the time, and looking back I think that we just...didn't really fit, even from the start. It was a relief to break up, as if I'd been squishing myself into a mould that was the wrong shape. <br /><br />On the other hand, I'm in a relationship now that looks a lot more like the one you have with your husband: I'm the one who talks too much, she's the one who leaves her socks out, I keep odd hours, we have different ideas of what's fashionable in clothing...but we share books and philosophies in common, and where we disagree we can talk about it, and we love each other and care about one another. And when I ended up in the ER when she was out of town, she dreamed that I'd gone to the hospital. There's something that clicks about us, and if I'd never broken up with the first girl we wouldn't have what we have now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com