Friday, January 31, 2014

T-shirt

I have mixed feelings about this shirt.




Actually, I have pretty unmixed feelings about this shirt. I don’t like it.

I don’t like it because it sends a message that a daughter is her father’s property (my princess?)

I don’t like it because it sends a message that there is conflict between daddy and the young men his daughter chooses to date, even before the young man has shown himself to want anything other than to be loving and kind to her.

I don’t like it because it rejects the idea of consensual sex between the daughter and the young man.

I don’t like it because it models violence as a normal part of human relations. 

Of course, I do like the idea of fathers holding their daughters in high regard and being willing to protect them. I would like the T-shirt more if I thought that there is no way that it could co-exist with a parent who would ask a daughter who was raped or threatened, “Why were you out so late? Why were you drinking? Why were you dressed like that?”


But you know what would make me really like the shirt? If it were directed at the sons of the fathers wearing it, if it were titled “Rules for Being Allowed to Date Someone Else’s Daughter”, if numbers 2 and 6 were missing, and if number 8 said, “She’s a precious human being with the right and power to say no, just like you, not your conquest.”

5 comments:

  1. This inspired me to make my own shirt at my never used shirt shop.

    I'm curious as to your thoughts.

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  2. I like the "Rules for Dating my Son" Addendum. Think you could sell some?

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  3. Think you could sell some?

    I have no idea, they're all available for sale now, but it's not like I have a T-shirt buying base to advertise to (never sold anything) so I generally assume that they'll just sit online never to be bought.

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  4. Oh thank you Chris the Cynic - I love your shirt and am about to plaster it all over facebook.

    I should add I particularly hate the shirts with "anything you do to her I'll do to you" - grrrr.

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  5. specialized for blank t shirts and printing. blank t shirts

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